I Was Falsely Accused

Like many men who ultimately became MRA’s,
I was falsely accused.

When I was a freshman at college, spring semester (about 2 and a half years ago), there was a female RA in my building who didn’t like me at all. We had a lot of disagreements and a lot of arguments, and I didn’t like her, either. To make a long story short, by the spring semester, things escalated to the point where she would often shout at me, and I wasn’t too bright either, so I often purposely did things to irritate her and egg her on. I would run through the halls, I would say bad things about her behind her back, I would tell everyone about what a bad RA she was, I would insult her and her boyfriend through the Halo 2 mike when I was playing Halo 2 against her boyfriend on system link, etc. Finally, she decided to get rid of me once and for all.

One day I was walking down the street, and I saw her, and she said to me “Luke, I would like to talk to you later.” I didn’t know what was up, but something told me from her tone that she wasn’t up to any good.

So later that day I was back in the residence hall, and then she came along and said “Ok, now I want to talk to you.” So we went out to the middle of the hall and she yelled (something along the lines of):

“Yesterday afternoon, you sent inappropriate, explicit instant messages through AIM to my HIGH SCHOOL AGED SISTER!! xyz123* is my SISTER’S IM ADDRESS, and you sent INAPPROPRIATE MESSAGES TO HER!! You knew her address because you SAW IT ON MY BOYFRIEND’S COMPUTER!! You have done so many things to purposely irritate me, and now this is the LAST STRAW!! You have been intruding in my personal life for the LAST TIME, and now this is going to become a BIG ISSUE!!”

(*Note: not the IM address which she actually said, used as a fill-in.)

The entire time I was just standing there frozen with fear. There were several times where she stopped during her rant to try to get a response out of me, but I gave absoultely none because I was so afraid I couldn’t even speak.

Now after she went away, I was very, very curious about why, and on what basis, she would accuse me of sending these messages. Because I knew that I didn’t send them. Curious, I pulled up my AIM log on my computer (I had a program which logged all the AIM messages sent and received from that computer), and horror of horrors, there were the messages in question. And whoever wrote them also used my real name and claimed to be me. I figured someone had gotten into my computer while I was out and the door was unlocked and the computer was still logged in, and wrote the messages, and sent them from my computer.

I had been framed.

Now I wasn’t stupid, and I knew eventually this would be turned into a case which would go in front of the college judicial system, and I might possibly even face criminal charges over it.

And there was evidence on my own computer that would convict me for sure.

So for awhile I didn’t know what to do, and I felt helpless and despaired, and angry at the same time. I wanted to beat the living crap out of whoever set me up, but at the same time it looked like they would get the last laugh and there was nothing I could do about it.

But then I finally managed to raise my head again to my computer screen, and I took a closer look at the messages, and at the timestamps on them. I noticed that the timestamp on the first message was 4:32 PM. And I noticed that the timestamp on the last message was 5:15 PM.

“Wait a minute!” I thought. “I was at Physics Lab cleaning up the apparatus until 4:45 that day! And I was at orchestra rehearsal from 4:55 until 6:00 that day! I have 4 witnesses, including the Professor and the Physics Lab Curator who saw me at Lab, and I have about 50 witnesses who saw me at rehearsal! I know that when I’m called in to defend myself, I’ll have a mountain of ironclad proof that I am innocent.”

So sure enough, about a week later, I received an email from the Dean saying essentially that I was being charged with the offense, and that in two days I was to meet with her in her office to present my preliminary defense against the charges.

At my college they don’t always give the charges special names like they do in the workplace and the legal system. Such was as in my case. So I was charged essentially with “sending explicit IM messages to the high school sister of an RA”.

At my college, for major offenses (what I was accused of is considered a major offense by the college), the accused is called into a Dean’s office where the Dean acts like a grand jury does in the US legal system, and then if you are indicted by the Dean, you go before a special Board, and there you have your trial.

So those two days later came, and I went into the Dean’s office, with my defense totally prepared.
And the Dean said roughly this:

“I’m sure you’ve gotten my email, and you know why you’re here. You have been accused of a very serious offense. You have been accused of sending explicit IM messages to the high school age sister of an RA at this college. I have already heard the complaintant’s side of the story earlier. Now I would like to hear your side of the story regarding this allegation.”

To which I responded roughly:

“Dean __________, I first heard about this on Thursday when she came up to me personally and said that I had sent these messages. She had her voice raised in a very frightful manner, and I was so scared that I stood there frozen and didn’t say anything back to her because I was so scared.

But I did pick up on her statement that the alleged messages were sent ‘yesterday afternoon’.

And when I checked my AIM log from yesterday afternoon, and there they were, the alleged messages!

But Dean ___________, I have ironclad proof that I didn’t send those messages. At the time those messages were sent from my computer, I was not at my computer. I was at Lab and Rehearsal. And I have a Physics Professor, the Physics Lab Curator, as well as 2 other students who will surely testify that I was at Physics Lab from 1:00 to 4:45, and I have about 50 students who would surely testify that I was at violin rehearsal from 4:55 to 6:00 or so. According to the timestamps from the computer log, the messages started at 4:32, and ended at 5:15. From 4:32 to 4:45, I was still at Physics Lab, and from 4:55 to 5:15, I was at violin rehearsal. So I could not have sent those messages that came from that computer because I simply wasn’t there to send them. [At this point I handed the Dean a sheet that I prepared ahead of time containing the messages and the timestamps, as well as a copy of my schedule]. And if necessary, I’m sure AOL, the company that runs AIM, could be reached and could provide data confirming those timestamps. And once that happens, the message time data from AOL, combined with eyewitness testimony that I was at Lab and Rehearsal at the time the messages were sent, will provide an ironclad case proving my innocence beyond any doubt that might be raised against it, if this should go before the Board.”

The Dean looked at me, and thought for awhile, and then she said something along the lines of:

“This incident was indeed very serious, and it is the duty of the college to find and punish the perpetrator of this incident. But you have provided such an absolutely compelling case that if your story does indeed check out with the Physics Professor and Curator, and with the rehearsal leader, that will be enough evidence for me to clear you of this charge, and you will not go before the Board. And if your story does check out with them, this will also be enough evidence for me to instruct this RA to get off of your back for the rest of your time at the college.” [No, I'm not making that last sentence up. My guess is that the Dean was fed up with the way in which the RA acted during the whole incident, and didn't want her to continue to bug me.]

I was so happy I practically went skipping back to the residence hall.

The weeks and months went by, and I never received another email regarding the incident from the Dean, or another summon into her office, so I’m assuming that she did talk to the Physics Lab Professor and the Curator and the rehearsal leader and maybe a few other people, and I know for a fact that my story checked out with all of them because they saw me there, so I suppose I was cleared and that was that.

But as far as many students were concerned, I wasn’t cleared at all. Labels such as “creepy”, and “stalker” and other feminist speak followed me for weeks, even though I had been found innocent. There was even this one student who tried to spread a rumor that I had confessed to the crime even before I got into the dean’s office to defend myself.

I became even more furious because I realized that the college itself, and feminism, with all their “Catch the Campus Stalker” programs (which by the way have yet to actually catch a stalker as far as I know) and “Let’s Accuse The Men!” programs was responsible for making it “acceptable” for this woman to frame me and falsely accuse me. (I’m SURE she was involved in framing me because she is the only one at the college who truly knew her sister’s IM address in the first place. I didn’t. I never saw it on her boyfriend’s computer as she falsely claimed. And if it was on her boyfriend’s computer, and HE was the one who framed me, then he would have told her about it, making it still a false accusation from her.)

And it was feminism that made these kids feel that it was acceptable to throw around humiliating feminist-speak names such as “creepy” and “stalker” at me for weeks, and to spread false, damaging rumors about me regarding the incident, even though I was found innocent of the charge.

Now about a month later I tried to tell my parents about this. I detailed the entire incident to them. But really they were “less than supportive” to say the least. They barely said anything in response to me at all, and what they told me effectively was:

“I’m glad you were found innocent, but the reason why she did this is that you agitated her to the point where she did this. That was bad of you. You need to stay out of other people’s affairs because they might do something like this if you don’t.”

Needless to say, I was shocked at my parents’ pitiful and unsupportive response. Where was the anger? Where was the outrage? Why was their only response to blame me for “agitating her” and legitimizing her unjust actions by saying that she did this because I “agitated her”?

So again, I blame feminism for the fact that my parents were hardly supportive of their son, and had no outrage over this sickening incident.

Anyway, I did a little research and I found out that men most at risk of false accusations are the ones that dated women and that had close interactions with women. And I found out that other men even at my college had been threatened with false accusations out of revenge because they did something that the woman didn’t like.

And although I wasn’t dating a woman in this situation, any idiot can put two and two together and figure out that dating situations and relationships open up an additional can of worms from which these sorts of false accusations can arise.

So obviously after this incident I never again went out of my way to purposely do a lot of agitating little things to anybody at the college again (and especially not women at the college, for obvious reasons).

And also after this incident and another second incident which was even worse, which I may or may not ever tell you about, and also the Duke Lacrosse case after that, I was totally finished with dating American women and women at the college, and with taking them out dancing or doing anything like that with them. It’s just too dangerous for me as a man in this feminazi society after all that has happened to be intimate with these women: the risk of getting falsely accused again, maybe even of something even worse, like sexual assault or rape, is just too high.

So to end I will say:

I am a man who was falsely accused.
Feminism was responsible.